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Climbing Out of My Emotional Prison  September 13, 2011 The following is the story of one of GuruMeher Singh's students who completed the full 3 courses of "Emotion: SOS!" (formerly "Emotional Liberation).  What an incredibly transforming experience it has been for so very, many enthusiastic folks!     Emotions are your Friends! I know you may not agree with that, but admit that you can’t get rid of them, they just keep coming back. So it would be worth a try to work with them and get along. Here’s a story from Marcie who found this to be true. “I always considered myself too emotional and that was a weakness. All my anger and fear felt awful and I felt those two a lot! I was stuck in the same situation with my business partner. I disagreed with her way of doing things but I wouldn’t speak up. Things wouldn’t get done. We made some peace by just doing our own areas and not talking. I was mad at her, but we never worked things out. Customers felt this and business suffered. The worst was the stress of all those feelings. The big “aha!” that changed everything was to think of them not as bad and weak, but as the Senses of the Soul. That honored title meant they must have a purpose, and that I am okay to have them. Rather than thinking I shouldn’t be angry, I began to just accept myself and the feelings whenever I felt mad. That took off the guilt and shame right away.  As I allowed myself to feel anger, it wasn’t so scary like I might hurt someone.  I could listen to the feelings like a new language in my body.  That voice told me I needed to take action, and it sure gave me the energy to overcome all my fears that had always stopped me from doing things. So I started speaking up, saying what didn’t work for me, making requests.  I didn’t even have to sound angry or be mean, just ask! When I did, things got better and the anger went way down.  Then I’d get scared, knowing I needed to do something but didn’t.  I’d get more upset.  I found that unless I listen and act on my anger I get more upset. I now see anger as an internal protector, letting me know when something’s not right and urging a change.  It was hard to change those old habits. What I most needed to do, I was most afraid to do.  I guess that’s why I was frozen for so long.  With some supportive encouragement and yoga for energy and clarity – and a lot of time in trial and error – I made solid changes in how I communicate, set boundaries, and knowing what works for me.  I still feel a flood go through me when I’m mad.  Uncomfortable?  Yes.  But instead of ignoring, avoiding, or stuffing it, I know it’s a sign that something needs to happen.  I’ve learned with the help of meditation to make conscious constructive choices. It feels good to just blast and yell, but that never had a good outcome.  Just like my grandmother used to tell me to count to 10 before I speak, I process what is best for me before I act.  I think of myself as sensitive rather than emotional.  It’s a whole other way to communicate with myself. By allowing the feelings and dealing with their purposes, I feel them less often.  I spend a lot more time feeling good.  I remember thinking I wasn’t very spiritual to have so many feelings, but now I understand theses Senses of the Soul.  They bring me through harm over to peace, so I can feel my Soul.  This all took some time to change, of course.  Now it’s pretty automatic and gets ever more efficient and subtle. So I do recommend you befriend your feelings.”    Copyright GuruMeher Singh Khalsa, SoulAnswer.com, 2011 You may reproduce this article online and in print as long as you keep this copyright large and readable, and include this link: www.SoulAnswer.com/emotion_sos.html

Gain Emotional Control by Allowing! Emotions: The indispensible gift of our most difficult feelings By GuruMeher Singh April 5, 2011   Your feelings, you can’t live with them, and you surely can’t live without them. When anxiety and worried thoughts wear you out, when depression heavily suffocates the joy out of life, or anger makes an enemy of everything, you’d give anything to banish these torturous feelings. Furthermore you’re told they are bad or wrong to be feeling. And finally, they create further problems when they improperly influence decisions and actions. But you can’t live without them because the mind constantly generates thousands of thoughts, and each thought creates a feeling. More importantly, emotions bring detailed information about what is harming you, what you need, and what to do about it. This constant guidance toward ever increasing happiness and well-being is their purpose. They are the Senses of the Soul, they know what you need at both the most immediate and deepest levels. Just as your 5 senses guide you through the world to find the resources you need to live, emotions steer you away from harm and toward peace. So why aren’t they working better for you? Simple: lack of skill and training!  When you were a baby you had hunger and all that you would need to feed yourself: a mouth, hands and food. But you couldn’t get the food into your mouth without help until you were instructed developed the ability. Humans have simply not learned to use this marvelous sensory equipment beyond reacting to pleasure and pain.  But your foolproof guidance system comes fully loaded and ready for you to operate. First let’s identify the two ways emotions are misused. The first is disuse: we distrust feelings as a nuisance, ignore, deny, distract ourselves from them, or override them. The opposite form of misuse: we act out upon the raw data of emotion without any filters: attacking when angry, or believing and cowering from every fearful thought. Correct and skillful use lies somewhere in between. We can control emotions by allowing them to work, under the watchful eye of our conscious intelligence. Try this new approach with the following exercise. 1- Start your re-training with a shift in perception: approach your emotions as honorable messengers of the Soul, and your thoughts as powerful tools to serve those messages, all leading what is best for you. 2- Start when you feel sufficiently strong and clear, such as after resting, doing yoga and meditating, or exercising. It’s difficult to learn to swim in rough seas, so don’t start when you are upset unless you have some trained support. 3- Next begins conscious and careful listening. Simply sit still in a quiet place, breath slowly and deeply for a few minutes, while feeling the stabilizing sensations of your breath and body. Observe your thoughts and feelings with curious interest as if a watching someone else’s, or like watching a movie. Watch thoughts without having to believe and follow them, and allow yourself to fully feel any emotions. In this way even difficult emotions begin to feel safer. A flood of intensity may come, but if you stay firmly observing, it’s like slowly settling into a hot bath, you adjust and find you can handle it; being comfortable with the discomfort increases. You’ll feel some relief. 4- Now you are in a position to listen more closely to the danger, harm, loss, or desire your emotions are signaling, and to the solutions direct from your Soul. This sophisticated process is as easy to learn as it is natural. The results will be for the highest good and always lead to greater peace and happiness for all in the long term. Your emotions are very powerful. The energy in the electrical outlet is dangerous only when used improperly, but helps us everyday when used as intended.  So use safe guidance as you learn the precious gift of your feelings. Then you can enjoy the richness, depth, and guidance that emotions bring to life while moving us forward to ever greater peace and bliss.   Check out GuruMeher Singh's Emotional Liberation series! www.SoulAnswer.com/emotional_healing.html   Copyright GuruMeher Singh Khalsa, 2011, www.SoulAnswer.com