YOUR MOST REMARKABLE MOTHER!
July 2, 2013
has been most fascinating in the last couple of months, and especially at Solstice to find that what has so wonderfully healed
so many people is that they are actually connecting with their Divine Mother! That is Adi Shakti, Divine
Creative, Prakirti, Mother Planet, etc. However you want to name her, she is so very, very present for
The trouble begins in
childhood or even before we are born. If our own flesh and blood mother does not fully connect with us,
if she is emotionally unavailable, if she has misgivings about being a mother, if her attention is on other things, or if
she is immature in her judgment or her love for you, then you will most likely feel down deep—way beyond words that
you don’t belong on the planet. No one has truly welcomed you here as only a mother’s energy
can do. You may feel lost and disconnected still. Perhaps you have never felt that satisfying
love that contains you and makes your life sweet.
Now, at your current age you may philosophically understand why your mom was absent in some way, such
as she got pregnant young, etc. and you don’t harbor any resentment towards her. That’s great.
But still, there may be a loss of connection to Earth that keeps you subtly wandering and not fully grounded.
Or you may get really jittery and off balance when stressed. Perhaps you are really distrustful
and can’t rely on things working out for you.
These are all symptoms of being disconnected with Divine Mother because you were not fully welcomed by your human
And yet, Divine Mother,
Adi Shakti is a most real Consciousness! She calls the Infinite Source of pure energy “Pa,”
otherwise known as Purkha or the Creator. And then she says that he sends her his pure energy which she
weaves or knits it into Creation—continuous, flowing, ever changing Creation. So, she calls herself
“Ma.” She is the feminine Creative, and yet she is so very cozy, loving and present for us—no
separation. All we have to do is allow ourselves to be present with her.
This remedy may be just too simple for you to
believe but just give it a try. You may find really profound results!
HOW TO CONNECT WITH MOTHER
First begin long, deep breathing www.SoulAnswer.com/long_deep_breath.html . Bring your awareness to your energy or prana flowing through
you as it is propelled by your breath. Then consciously, powerfully send that prana down through your body—through
your feet down into the very center of Mother Earth, and open yourself to connect with her there. Keep
up your breath and energy movement going down to her as you feel her there.
Then take note of what you feel. Actually
write that down so that you can remember it. Spend some time with her. You will probably
be very surprised at what you feel. I don’t want to lead you in what you may feel, so I am not going
to tell you what others have experienced. But while you are with her, just feel out whether there is any
more problem with being strong, cared for, loved, etc.
Let her heal you, rest in your birthright which is you as the Divine expressing yourself here on Earth.
Know who your most real Parents are—Divine Ma and Pa, that is your true family. Let her heal
you and welcome you to Earth as you never have before. She will be exquisitely happy that you are consciously
connected with her so that she can support you as only a most loving, kind, open and nourishing mother can. Allow
any pain in you to arise, and give it to her so that she may heal it with her love for you. Yes, this is
a very real process and so many have gone through this most remarkable healing experience!
Then once you are solid in what you are feeling with her, just ask
what she has to tell you, and listen closely to her answer. Again, you may be surprised at her communication.
This is definitely not your mind playing tricks on you. Rather, just realize that this is your own
Divine Mother of whom you are definitely a part, and that you are receiving her very own connection, love and guidance which
is more real than anything you could see with your eyes!
Once you are firm in that connection, begin to simultaneously cycle Mother’s energy up
through your feet, through your body and then out the top of your head at your tenth gate to send it to Pa, the Source.
This is where you truly connect with the Light Source, the Ek Ong Kaar, the Purkh. Feel Pa’s
incredibly pure Light there. Then again, continuously cycle his energy down through your own body—feeling
that wonderful movement, and down into Ma. And at this point, please make that continuous loop cycle become
constant in your body, down to Ma at the center of the Earth, up through the center of your own physical body, then to the
expansive Universal Light, the returning straight down your body and into Ma. This is a continuous flow
or conduit of pure energy where you firmly know your very real family origin and heritage. This is the
is the Reality of your Being, Dear. This is how you bring Heaven to Earth and Earth to Heaven—not
in any imaginary way, but in the cozy experience of the Truth of how Creation works. In this way, Ma says
that we are the very real offsprings of Father God and Mother God. Be secure in your own Divinity as you
experience it here in this time/space realm. KNOW WHO YOU ARE, EXPERIENCE WHO YOU ARE.
You are SAT NAM, the Identity of your True Being!
And if you want to review what she has told us in so many ways, please go to www.SoulAnswer.com/wisdom_marketplace.html and link to any of the articles by Mother Planet!
Lots of Love,
Kaur Khalsa, www.SoulAnswer.com/consciousness.html , 2013
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June 24, 2013
what is your real personal Power?
This is a little tricky because personal power has so often been deemed as controlling and manipulative.
But, please—we know that approach is only a sign of great weakness that is disguised as strength—a wolf
in sheep’s clothing, so to speak.
Today, we are taking a look at our real personal power to “hold the space,” that is the space of Shuniya
or Neutrality in our everyday life that is the gateway or dimension for our own Soul to step in to pilot and project.
And that takes real humility to Soul/Guru.
This is the mind and energetic “space” that can create and hold protective boundaries
for ourselves and others. It is the power to be our Real Selves in this world. It means
that you have the capacity to be effective in your work and in your projections. You don’t crumple
when confronted by opposition or gossip. You are flexible and can listen deeply, yet you and your ideas
flow fearlessly from your Divine Intuition. You don’t run away—physically, mentally or energetically
when challenged. You “Keep Up!”
Your reaction doesn’t come fear or worry—real power killers, but from Divine Neutral in
a way that is most appropriate to the situation. That response could be so sweet, or even loud yelling
if that is the only way others’ can hear the genuine Truth that comes through you. You don’t
retaliate with judgment, blaming or revenge, but pray and work for the situation to be healed. Your fears
and worries don’t rip your mind, energy or sense of Self/self from you.
Your full power allows you to hold your own without going out of your Divine Center. With
your flowing personal power you can create and maintain projects, love yourself and others in an unlimited way, forgive and
heal from the bottom of your heart, you can appropriately stand for your Truth without clobbering another, you can effectively
lead with compassion and vision but without attachment and pride. You are not afraid of consequences, but
you are able to see the “sequences that lead to the consequences” so that you can make and hold suitable decisions.
You have total humility to the power and direction from your Soul through your Divine Intuition.
And so the “tests” that come to you don’t knock you down, rather you are simply in the flow of Soul’s
power. And you never try to bend Soul’s direction to your own expectations or will.
If you have and project this personal Power,
you can be effective, prosperous, compassionate, supportive, visionary, healing, kind, strong, and wise. Yogi
Bhajan spent a good amount of his teaching on helping us “space-case spiritual yogis” develop this most pure and
profound ability to effectively participate and lead on this Earth while flowing from our meditative mind—without flopping
over to the “dark side” of our power!
It actually takes a whole symphony of all our aspects working in sync to create this personal power on every level.
That is mental, physical, and energetic or spiritual. So, my Dear, here are a few practical remedies
to really build your own personal Power.
Daily Sadhana—that is your daily spiritual practice to heal your
mind and any debilitating emotions as you upgrade the flow of ease and powerful energy through your aura! I
am sure that you have felt that very real difference.
a long term sadhana of the yogic kriya “Nabhi Kriya” http://www.soulanswer.com/sitebuildercontent/sitebuilderfiles/nabhi_kriya.pdf which builds the force of your navel point—the location of your power and projection,
followed by the meditation for Power and Control of Your Caliber. www.SoulAnswer.com/caliber_med.html
Be on the lookout for any habitual Victim’s way of thinking and acting,
and consciously heal them. Playing the Victim/Victimizer role will surely snarl up your personal power.
You can review all that at www.SoulAnswer.com/peace.html .
Get really grounded! Loss of our personal power often
comes from our lack of connection with Adi Shakti, the Divine Creative Consciousness of Creation. She has
a big title, but Mother is so very cozy, personal and so very, very supportive. Just do long, deep breathing.
Then consciously send your whole energy down your body and into the very center of Mother Earth. Feel
Her there. Ask what she has for you. Enjoy this most amazing connection with Divine
Mother always. Then cycle this energy back up your body, then down continuously. Anchoring
your energy in Her makes all the difference.
RELAX! This can be a challenge, I know.
But by moving into Soul through Shuniya, you access the ease, the flow, the Source—your Source/Soul where all
ease, flow, trustworthy guidance and pure power originates. Start with long, deep breath or Heart Breath
www.SoulAnswer.com.heart_breath.html to allow yourself to let go of your scrambled mind and emotions--fears
and worries. Literally give them up to the Divine! Then allow this/your Divinity to
take charge! Life changes instantly. In this “place,” just watch to see
what happens without any demands on what the outcomes should be. That is pure ease of profound power that
seeks to support your life at every second. Powerlessness or weakness is not even a question there.
Give It a chance! I bet you will be amazed.
· Change your venue to get a fresh viewpoint—physically, e.g. go out for a walk or run; mentally, e.g.
switch your focus or jump into a powerful mantra that will break those bonds of worry or fear such as Gobinday, Mukunday…
www.SoulAnswer.com/gobinde.html ; or emotionally, e.g. listen to GuruMeher Singh’s incredible guided
meditations www.SoulAnswer.com/sos.html . Jump out of that cage of powerlessness. Allow yourself
to be FREE!
Stay alert, dear One!
Coming into the fullness of your personal, Divine, humble Power is an awesome experience. It is
a lifetime process, but that is how your own Soul leads you to your own greatness and pure prosperity on every level—assured!
Lots of Love,
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Victim or Healer of Your Ancestors?
April 16, 2013
Some current cultural
mind sets appear to be: Feel lost and forlorn about our parents’ treatment of us. Loss
of recognition of Who we really are. Being stuck in our seemingly unbreakable habits of victimization,
little self-love and satisfaction with this life, negative “self-talk” voices in our ears, and so much more!
But the whole generational story is so very, very fascinating, and as you find your place in it, you
can reclaim your own extraordinary personal power and even self-love.
So many of us are victims
of the habits of our ancestors. For instance if our parents, and even our grandparents and beyond were
scolding and blaming, we might have that lodged within our own mental or emotional psyche. Perhaps there
is un-ease or lack of prosperity on many different levels that perpetually depletes us, even though we can’t quite pinpoint
the source in our lives. Maybe we don’t really trust anybody or anything. Instead
we have a kind of subliminal nagging feeling that the bottom will surely drop out of whatever we are involved in at any moment.
Or maybe unreasonable shame grabs our freedom and self-love for no apparent reason.
question is, when you relax deeply into meditation to examine those puzzling things, do you find that these same habits of
insecurity were actually fixed in your parents in their young days, and perhaps their parents suffered the same haunting “realities.”
I find it interesting that these qualities can flow through one’s family lineage for generations and generations,
so that they seemingly come out of nowhere in the current generation! Yes, that is true.
this point, one asks whether these things are passed along through “nature,” e.g. vibrational information lodged
in one’s DNA, or through “nurture,” that is the way that we were raised. I suspect that
it comes from both.
When fully examined in our subconscious, we often find that
these habitual traits were originally lodged in our ancestors as a reaction to some very real perils such as famines, rigid
self-denying adherence to cultural norms in order to remain a member of their community life-support, traumatic loss of family
and friends through wars or natural disasters, and so on. Just take a look at the horrors that humans have
endured throughout history and understand how that experience of traumatic reaction can be passed down through the generations
through both nature and nurture.
So, now it the time to consciously ask yourself, “Do I want
to continue to be a victim of this stuff?” “Do I need to subconsciously hold solidarity with my family and its
self-defeating proclivities by continuing to live in that difficulty?” And consequently, “Will
I feel that I am deserting them if I change?”
And finally, “Do I
want to switch from being the victim of these inheritances to become the saving grace of my family lineage as well as myself
at this very time to end these continuing harrowing traits?”
As you heal
yourself, you heal your ancestors in the bargain. It is like going back in history to actually alter its
course by neutralizing or healing those self-perpetuating habits. After Yogi Bhajan led Tantric one year
at Summer Solstice, he remarked in wonder that he saw so many of our departed ancestors following us around so that they might
be healed! Remember, we don’t engage in ancestor worship where we immortalize the great difficulties
that have come down to us. Instead, we are on the path of enlightenment for ourselves and consequently
for all that we touch and are touched by. That certainly includes healing our ancestry as we heal ourselves.
And when we do this work, it is amazing to observe that our living relatives actually change for the better!
During regressions, I usually find that one’s Soul picks the family that they are
born into for the purpose of presenting them with their own earned karmas—whether delightful or bothersome.
And the second purpose is to become the actual healer of that lineage—to stop and clear the spread of the ancestral
poop. As we realize that process, and consequently do the necessary healing, we find that this work is
definitely part of our Destiny as planetary healers. Imagine if everyone made this effort to heal their
lineage, wouldn’t the psyche of Earth’s citizens truly let go of the great pains that perpetuate hurt and aggression
towards ourselves and one another?
Now, if you are serious about this, here are the steps that you
may take to heal yourself and your ancestors. Please start with yourself.
While listening to a mantra or doing a Kundalini Yoga Kriya or Meditation www.SoulAnswer.com/kriyas.html , deeply feel the wounding, numbness, etc. within.
Then as you relax into Soul—your deep consciousness, you may let the details unfold of how that
situation was originally set in you. If it comes to you, follow your awareness to see if this event came
from this life, or if it has been passed down through the generations. You may be able to unearth the actual
cause of this generational habit. But don’t worry if it is not apparent to you. We
are healing the feeling, the vibration itself.
Deeply forgive the perpetrators of the event—which may be natural causes, wars or other folks in
your life as well as in your ancestors’ lives. This is not forgiving from your mind that overlooks
the Truth and seriousness of the situation. But rather this deep forgiveness that is hooked to your long,
deep breath does not say that all is or was OK, but that you are actually giving permission to let the whole tangle of emotions
and energy to ease out, to disburse with no conditions. You do this by addressing these situations person
by person and event by event.
this process as many times and as long as it takes to thoroughly get it done. Now, you may find that after
you go through this healing, in the future you are faced with the same thing but at a deeper level. This
is what I call the “Healing Spiral”. This amazing situation offers a life-time process for
you. Each time you go inside for even more healing, you build your energetic strength and integrity while
more wisdom becomes available within yourself. It is a most remarkable process.
you see you really can change your fate of being a victim of what you inherit to becoming a healer of yourself, of your predecessors
and of humanity. The choice is yours, dear Warrior of Healing. Have fun!
Lots of Love,
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Dance the Unknown
April 9, 2013
What happens when your plans fall apart? Are you obsessively seeking
to find that “special someone” who will finally make you happy? Have you lost your job or feel
that you are in danger of that?
yeah! These are the times that try us.
We work so hard to plan everything out so that we are entirely covered, so that we know exactly what will happen
next. And we may invest all of our time, money, and emotionality into really nailing all of that down really
tight so that we will have true, dependable security! We may fear that if something is out of place, or
if something is not under our total control, or if we don’t have just what we fully believe that we need at the moment
we need it, then we’re screwed.
If the world that we have constructed so diligently with so much forethought and patience that we expect to
fully support us—if all that falls apart, then it may seem that there is nowhere to go but to nerve-wracking fear of
“Oh, my God!
What’s next? Where will I be safe? How can I get along without ……..?”
There can be nothing
scarier than being thrust into the unknown—the proverbial being flung into hell in a hand basket! How
stressful when the world that you have built to fulfill your expectations even gets a crack in it. It’s
so easy to explode into a real panic—from tiny or annoying to horrendous!
There has to be a better way!
Actually there is.
Now I am not saying that you shouldn’t plan, or make your intentions.
Oh, my God, you should do that in order to live here on Earth.
But the real question is: where do you get your security from? If your
security arrives from knowing exactly what will happen according to your plans, your expectations, well then, how often does
that really work for you? Maybe for a little while. But as you know, things have a way
of falling apart when you least expect it.
Maybe you just got fired from your job from out of the blue. Or you had a car accident that
totally changed everything. Perhaps you suddenly got blind-sided by really terrific bills and have no clue
how to pay them. Oh, yikes!
But here is the solution:
actually have the most incredible Friend following you around all the time, and I mean ALL the time. This
Friend is tireless in what It wants to give you and how to support you for your very, very greatest good. Uh-hm.
But the thing is, you
never know just how things are going to turn out. So, if you want to actually thrive with all the changes
and upheavals, you are just going to have to roll with the punches. That means that in your most amazing
personal relationship with this very great Friend, you will need to be totally trusting. That Friend, of
course is your own beloved Soul! (To learn to listen to your Soul, go to www.SoulAnswer.com/soul.html )
this means that when things seem to fall apart according to your own plans and expectations, instead of panicking and losing
your focus, instead you breathe deep and lay back in neutral as you just wait for the next step of this tremendous adventure
to present itself. And in this very special neutrality of mind and emotions, we lay in wait as we put up
our very attentive subtle antennae to recognize the next step when it comes along.
This process is kind of like magic. You
stay in that incredible subtle place that is like a focused meditative awareness until you feel moved, or hear, or just KNOW
which way to go. You stay in that amazing energy flow as you actually dance with what is being handed to
you, step by step by your Beloved. Solutions can come bit by bit or all at once from your Soul, from Its
very milieu—the Unkown. You feel your Partner guiding you, being very aware of synchronizing with
every step. And with this staying in total sync with the Unknown, the Creative comes to serve you in ways
that you never could have believed possible. The wonder of it all may take your breath away!
This is Living the Unknown.
is a very special art that is available to everyone. You just need to switch your conscious awareness from
needing total control and absolute expectations to become secure in allowing, trusting your total security to your own Beloved,
your Soul to bring “magic” out of the Unknown for you.
Now, to do this you may have to work through your habitual fears, or your way of thinking
that things “should be,” or that they always happen a certain way. The Incredible Creative
solutions that spring from the Unknown will definitely come in the most surprising ways. But that is the
pure adventure, that is the flow, that is the loving trust that develops between you and your Beloved. You
will be amazed at how your Beloved moves you to your greatness and your full freedom. Then when fulfillment
comes in these most zig-zaggy ways, you might just notice that was Soul’s plan all along!
Let go, trust, stay aware and follow into
Yogi Bhajan always
said, “The Unknown is known to me.” And so it is!
Lots of Love,
Siri-Gian Kaur Khalsa, www.SoulAnswer.com/consciousness.html , 2013
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Don’t Repress Your Ego!
indulge it either. LOVE IT!
April 2, 2013
know, I know. All of the ancient spiritual teachings say to get rid of your ego. Trample
it. Pretend it doesn’t exist. Avoid it. Hate it.
Consider your ego as the devil in combat with the angel of you. Yikes!
But guess what folks—lest you think I’ve gone
off my rocker by obviously defying such “wisdom,” it was our own divine teacher, Yogi Bhajan who growled from
the teaching stage at Ladies’ Camp more that once, “Nobody has a bigger ego than ME!”
Have you ever tried to ignore your ego? What
happened? Did you find that it came squirting out with surprising defiance such as anger, blaming, judging--more
like a tube of toothpaste when run over by a Mac truck? Or perhaps you sank, or ran for cover, or went
into depression when faced with the crap that the “world” sent your way.
Have you succumbed to all that if you just try to be “nice, compassionate
and inspiring” at every moment? Are you trying to “get to heaven,” or make spiritual
progress according to some written out plan that you found in a book or that seems to be the prevailing New Age or religious
How has that worked for
you? Were you able to maintain it? Were you left with even more interior turmoil, confusion
and feeling further from your goals of rising to embody your “spiritual self”?
Well, first let’s look your EGO square in the face.
It is our identity here
on Earth. Freud says that it is our mental organizing principle. That is, you could
not “connect the dots of your life” if you didn’t have an ego. You would have no concept
of who you are and how to operate in the world—no matter how lost or controlling you may feel. Without
that structure of an ego, you could not take care of yourself or others. You could not engage with anyone
and your environment. You could not hold your own. And most of all, you would not have
the mental structure that your Soul needs to operate and project Itself in this world as You. Yes, your
Soul does need your ego to operate here!
your Soul, your God Self needs a really strong and cleared ego to be fully Present in that body and mind that you call “ME”.
Yogi Bhajan had an extremely strong, huge and clear ego so that he could project his God Self, his Soul with these
incredible teachings and his personal teachings to us when he was here in a way that would transcend into future generations.
As you know, he was not that fake picture of what a holy man “should be.” He was totally,
powerfully REAL at every second.
this work that we do—our Kundalini Yoga, our meditations, our sadhana, our constant self-observation and self-correcting,
our deep healing of wounds and scars from centuries of lifetimes—including those we inherited from our ancestors are
all for the sake of both clearing and strengthening our egos. That is the purpose ofkarma.
Clearing our ego means that that crazy old
“stuff” from our subconscious rears up less and less. As we clear, we find that we are so much
freer, feel Light. We are less often dragged down by those old fixed ideas of perfection, or addictions
where we look for love in all the wrong places. Confusion drops, worries dissipate, cozy connection to
True love occurs within, life becomes more fun, more spontaneous and authentic—from our very core, which just happens
to be our Soul, our God Self.
And our ego naturally becomes strong. Less and less often do we have to pull together our
courage to hold our ground, or feel that we have to force Truth into every encounter with pounding heart and shaking knees
because fear just takes a hike. In that condition, there is nothing so huge that it can truly assail our
Real Self. That is when our strong ego gives over every event, every interaction, every dream, every relationship
to Soul through our utter neutrality. And yet, we stand strong and give over, rather than have it taken
from us. It’s the best of relationships!
Of course, this progress of ego becoming clear and strong is not an overnight process.
Oh, no. It is an ongoing “path” that takes constant attention, commitment and delivery.
Do you remember that Yogi Bhajan was really big on COMMITMENT?
So, here are some big tips for you as you tread your path.
Love your ego! Whatever it does—whether
you judge its actions arising from the subconscious as desirable or undesirable, just LOVE, LOVE, LOVE your ego back to health
and happiness. Deeply forgive it from your meditative essence—not superficially from your mind.
If your ego is making a mess of things or is really having lots of pain and confusion, understand that it is a really
wounded child so-to-speak. Your ego is your special project. Have compassion for it.
So instead of kicking it into the closet or punishing it for its apparent screw-ups, in your deep meditation ask it
what is going on. What is its thorn in its side? How can it be healed, loved and brought
out of pain to happiness. I bet that you will find some amazing answers. Be sure to
in the same meditative frame of mind, in total neutrality, ask Soul to help you with caring for your ego and healing it.
Let your Soul and your ego talk together in cozy conversation. Let your Soul care for your precious
ego. This is the reality of the spiritual partnership. Soul loving, healing and caring
for ego, so that ego can soften to just be its Real Self. That happens when your ego is projecting your
Soul. What a true symbiosis! That is the Union that we seek here on Earth.
That is the natural happiness that is waiting for us as we do the daily cleaning and repair work for ego.
And it all happens in
the cradle of LOVE, not rejection or repression of ego. And as we heal ego’s difficulties, pains
and worries, we find that in fact we needed to have gone through all that challenging stuff so that we got that knowledge
that transforms to incredible wisdom on those subjects, and we develop the easy strength of a spiritual warrior of Light.
This is the path to Reality, to Love, to
Spirit, to Happiness to the Real You. Relax, Keep Up and enjoy it!
Lots of Love,
If you would
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You’re Not in Control!
March 26, 2013
Oh, yes. That’s
We all do this:
We work really hard to have everything happen just the way we want—that is to make the best product; to get people
to accept, admire or love us; to have people do what we think is right, whether that be by subtle manipulation, or really
overt such as yelling at our children or partner; engaging in a little freeway rage, or railing against the other political
party, or at people who do “stupid” or means things. “After all, shouldn’t things
go MY way?”
you come right down to it, when we try to control or manipulate someone or something, what we are really looking for is security.
That is the security that might come from knowing exactly what comes next so that I won’t be horrified by any
changes or surprises—anything that appears to be threats to my safety, self-identity, love or survival as I define it—people,
money, projects, housing, lifestyle, relationships, you name it. It may involve my belief in “perfection,”
what that is, and how to achieve it. Or my attempt to control could come from my total belief that I know
just what is right for anyone and everyone, and my effort to make them tow my line by whatever hook I use is so-o-o amazingly
self-centered. Remember high school cliques? Plus trying to keep everything “under
control” is so very, very stressful and really doesn’t work out in the long run.
So, when things seem to explode out of our
control, our anger or feelings of disappointment, loss, disorientation or powerlessness is actually self- induced self-destruction.
It is not “THEY” who are doing us in when “THEY” won’t follow our rules, but it is WE
who have staged our own Armageddon that will surely play out at some point. Yet, this is the cultural norm!
Can you think of anything that you might
do that falls into this playbook, no matter how innocent it may be? The illusion of control is so very
The fact is that
it is really our Souls, our God Self that really in control. Oh, yes!
Now, I am not saying that you can’t create objectives, or
plan, or engage others in your plan. Oh, no. Nor am I saying that you can’t have
intentions. In order to live here on Planet Earth, we surely do create intentions. They
become great guiding forces in our lives and they let the Universe know what we would like to become our reality.
Intentions also give others the opportunity to participate with us, and we with them. Whole communities
are built on these implicit agreements.
when things appear to “go wrong,” when they don’t turn out as we expected or counted on for our own security,
instead of going into the pain of it, or the distrust of Life or God or even ourselves and our intentions, wouldn’t
it be amazing if we just squarely examined what is happening right before our eyes? Get the
real facts of the situation as they are without embellishment. That is to see what is truly happening with
no judgment, no emotional furor, no wishful thinking, no feelings of sinking loss or insecurity.
Rather, we simply become totally Present, which means being
really grounded—moving our energy into Mother Earth and switching from our emotions going into confusing overload, and/or
our mind at a loss for workable solutions. Instead, actually anchor into pure, palpable stability that
is available at every moment.
Present means slowing your breath down, calming your mind and emotions, and going to that “clear place” that you
can get to in meditation. But you can actually get to that feeling a crystalline breeze on a beautiful
clear spring day by just moving your mind over a bit to allow that Presence to flow through you. Honestly
let go of all expectations and worries so that you can actually enter that “place”. Some people
call that being Centered, or being Whole, or moving into Soul’s Dimension. It is a very real “space”
where you consciousness can reside.
whatever you call it, here is your place of true connection with the great Creative Force! But, you know
what? That direction from Soul is so incredibly practical, down-to-Earth and right-on in its creative solutions
for you, that It’s guidance will take you to incredibly appropriate solutions! And when you truly
give over to Soul to manifest the very best solutions to your dilemma without your tight control, you will definitely be awed
at what will happen “out of nowhere.” The best can happen when you don’t put your control
on that miraculous, very simple energetic flow from Soul, so that it can create opportunity without restrictions.
Solutions that you never could have thought
of on your own occur as you step back to allow Soul unbridled freedom to create! Your intentions are fulfilled
in ways that you could never have imagined when you let go to Soul. And Soul’s voice is so cozy,
dependable, non-judgmental and simple. No wishy-washy here. Just very simple and to
you might find that Soul simply tells you to Relax. Well, my Dear, that is obviously what you need to do
in that moment. You are not being put off in the least. You are being given direction
to loosen your confusion or emotions so that your energy can open to ALLOWING vs. controlling.
And if Soul happens to be silent at the moment, you are
being given the opportunity to relax into patience so that you can open yourself to the next step.
This is such an incredibly simple process,
yet so profound!
So, Dear One,
as you live in the present of Soul’s Presence and let go of your control, I bet that you will actually discover the
magic of your God-given Life! This process takes attention and practice, but there is no greater reward
than living in flow of the Unknown. This ease and prosperity is what we pine for, but so efficiently avoid
when we try to control. Now you know how to live in the security of the Unknown. Try
Lots of Love,
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Are YOUR Cultural Mythologies?
No, I am not talking
about the Greek Pantheon. I am talking about your whole belief system! Yes, your WHOLE
belief system—both your obvious beliefs such as what your citizenship is, or who your Mother is. But
also your hidden or non-obvious belief system that pops out when you least expect it, such as “I am afraid to become
known—to put myself out there as a healer, a teacher—you name it because of the risks involved.”
What risks? Where did that come from? A very real past life perhaps, in which
you did suffer the consequences of becoming known?
At Ladies’ Camp many years ago, I heard Yogi Bhajan expound over several days on the concept of “Trances.”
The idea is that this human earthly consciousness that includes all of our memories, all of our experiences—whether
delightful or hurtful, and our resulting “samskaras,” or tendencies towards thinking or doing certain things over
and over again is all made up of thousands, perhaps millions or more movie-like scenarios that build up the multifaceted character
that we call ourselves.
We act and
react from these trances that are built upon a whole complex belief system that we have accumulated and forged together over
time to create this being that we are now.
And when we heal, we actually unravel the great tangle of one or several of those trances. Then
rather than the story of that very active trance generating the pain or confusion as it replays over and over in our lives,
that trance can finally ease out to allow the great wisdom, Truth, love and connection that flows through us when we actually
live from our Soul, our God Self. We unravel the magnetic stuff of that huge movie that is lodged deep
within our subconscious so that we are free to live in the actual Present without those habitual beliefs taking over our body
Now those trances are built
up not only from known and unknown experiences, but from the beliefs and experiences handed down in our DNA from our ancestors,
as well as from all of the cultural mythologies that form our lives. That is—what we think is most
important, what tells us what is right or wrong, who or what is to be emulated and what is to be despised, etc.
For instance, how important are beautiful looks
in our current cultural mythology? Do we believe that being rich is the same as being successful?
Who do we look up to in our culture—is it the President, or movie stars and other celebrities? What
happens if we dress in the style of a totally different era or geographic location, such as wearing a black burqa, or antebellum
finery with all of its hooped skirts, or dirty shambled clothing? Our judgments are based on our inner
mythologies. And our reactions to all situations--what we believe is right and wrong, and what is true,
how we judge, and judge and judge ourselves and others all flow from our own cultural mythologies!
Yogi Bhajan often said, “There is no right or wrong, thinking
makes it so!” Therefore, as our minds and habits are subconsciously entrenched in these icons of
cultural mythologies, our attitudes and ways of being with others may become superficial or frozen, even though “we
can’t stand it!”
we treat each other is also based in our cultural mythologies. Check out your memory of those sometimes
ruthless high school cliques. They thrived on their own whole cultural mythology! Now
what about your workplace’s mythology, your family, friends and teachers, your neighborhood, your religion, messages
from TV, movies, and on and on? What do you think of the great movie mythology that being loved by another
person fixes all the difficulties and challenges of one’s life?
In other words, our attitudes about ourselves, others, our world and how to get along in it
are truly defined—OK, “fenced in” by our own trances and cultural mythologies.
And yet, it is those shared mythologies that
make us feel as though we belong. By living those shared mythologies, we are accepted by others with similar
mythologies, we are more likely to be supported and feel safe in many ways, our insecurities are whitewashed without being
examined until the whitewash fades away. Then what? Do the cracks and chinks in that
cultural mythology begin to pull us apart?
Our goals and ideas of Truth that we hold sacred and that we live by are usually supplied
to us via our mythologies—whether we subconsciously live them, or whether they prod us to find what is real and True
by our own conscious experimentation with experience.
One the one hand, acceptance of the prevailing cultural mythologies
might feel like a prison, but on the other, there may be some mythologies that actually support us to evolve into being free,
open and loving if that is where our very Soul is pulling us. We are very lucky to finally be living in
an age and location on Earth where we can safely question what is touted as true, and to change our mythologies as we will.
of not going along with the crowd may still be non-acceptance, heartbreak, etc. But the question is, what
do we cherish most—living by the ever-changing “book” of cultural mythologies, or searching for and then
living the great Truth that pulls us from within? Where do we find happiness? How do
we meet challenges? Who do we listen to? Who do we belong to? Where
do we belong? The choice is always ours, no one else’s.
Now here is the next layer. We actually understand that
all life is illusion! But on the other hand, here we are living as though our involvement in our earthly
life were the only reality.
Truth, both are true!
The question is how to meet our life’s challenges so that all coincide perfectly. That is
living from the calling of your very Soul, faithfully following Its direction at every moment. At the same
time, embrace or even create the cultural mythologies that actually serve your living fully in this great Creation, but do
it with full awareness that allows your own Soul to be in charge.
Become so aware that you know what is True without falling for the illusion from our cultural
mythologies that don’t serve your vast and cozy partnership with your Soul. Stay in neutral awareness.
Learning to do this
all the time is a lifetime learning situation. But I am convinced that it can be done. That
is what conscious living is all about. That is what living in the Unknown, the Eternal Present is all about.
BE AWARE of the pull of your cultural mythologies, as you let go and follow your God Self, your Soul!
Lots of Love,
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July 3, 2012
Life can be hard, really hard when we live from the fountains
of torments that we suffered as children. Oftentimes, we aren’t even aware of that cruel or difficult
programming that rules our brains and emotions. All of those emotional displays of our personal Vesuvius,
all of that running from the dangers of our own Boogey Men—whether actually seen or experienced as some vague but very
powerful threat, or real loss paired with the consequent quest for love, recognition, support, or prosperity.
Or perhaps we are obsessed with fighting for pure freedom whether overtly or subtly, or even carrying debilitating
burdens of insecurity, shame or guilt for God-knows-what!
So, when we examine
our childhood, we can often “get” what the causes of our desperation and dissociation were. We
can see how they were ingrained in our innocent mind and energetic structure when we were so vulnerable.
But look even deeper.
Do you remember
that Yogi Bhajan told us that when we liberate ourselves, we will liberate seven generations back and seven generations forward?
In working with folks over time, I have found that these disruptive tendencies don’t
necessarily start in our own childhood. Oh, no. They can most effectively be passed
down through our lineage from our ancestors. They can be a very real part of our inheritance that seems
to be connected with our actual genetic material.
For instance, one woman
always felt an aversion to her beautiful sexuality. Some kind of guilt kept her retiring from full expression
of herself, even though she had no memory of abuse.
her healing regression, she discovered that her grandmother’s family had belonged to a very strict European religious
sect that sought to keep strong wraps on sexuality. So, when the grandmother was an innocent young girl,
full of light and laughter, she was shunned by the community due to the unspoken rule against being too attractive and too
full of life.
Regretfully, that strong repression caused
the young girl to drop her light and laughter from then on. And yet that deep guilt and shame suffered
by the grandmother was energetically passed along her genetic line.
With that most surprising realization, our woman who was seeking healing was able to dissolve those energetic ties
of guilt and shame by deeply forgiving all those involved, including herself for continuing to carry those emotions.
And she didn’t judge anyone.
That is how we transform difficulties
into opportunities for growth. The results were that our lady was finally able to regain her own beautiful
freedom, light, laughter, comfort with her sexuality, and most innocently attractive presence that had been lost by her grandmother.
And with that, she was able to ease that degrading situation out of her family’s “traits”—both
from her ancestors, and to clear it from her children’s children. What a blessing all round!
When you pull this kind of ancestral energetic “plug” within yourself, the
results are often quite noticeable for the whole family. However, you may need to work on each facet of
the whole picture over time. But what a quantity of blessings for all concerned!
So, for instance if you or your family have had a history with such things as alcoholism, abuse, anger, suspicion
and desertion, or any other devastating difficulty, don’t blame anyone, not even your abuser. Start
with healing yourself. Neutralize by forgiving.
Do your best to consciously quit and transform any activity that is reminiscent of your family’s Achilles Heel,
such as quitting any kind of alcohol if you came from an alcoholic family, even though you may never get drunk anymore.
Continuing that habit, even on a much limited basis continues to tie you into your family’s energetic syndrome.
When you fully heal all the practices and ramifications of drinking, such as sneaking and telling lies, finding unconscious
ways to sublimate pain or “reality” rather than straightforwardly healing or dealing with it, becoming really
responsible and reliable—without obsession, create healthy boundaries out of love and protection for all rather than
from fear, keep your promises and schedules, heal your anger, etc., all this makes all the difference for you and helps your
whole family, including your ancestors become unbelievably happier and stronger.
Summer Solstice a number of years ago, Yogi Bhajan laughed as he pointed out all of the thousands of ancestors that were following
us with the hope of being healed and liberated!
So, to pursue this ancestral
healing, first, do not blame or judge anybody, including yourself. And secondly, there is no reason to
try to “fix” someone else unless they want your help. Work on yourself and your state of relationship
In our lifetimes, we all inflict difficulties on others, and at
other times become the victims. And we unwittingly pass along our unresolved “stuff.”
So, this whole interactive bundle of lifetimes, our ancestral lineage, our cultures, and more is actually a sacred
karmic setup that our Soul participates in so that we may build our strength, awareness and abilities as we transform and
move towards Union.
If you want to clearly explore and clear your ancestral
information, you may choose to:
Schedule an appointment with me www.SoulAnswer.com/bsc_healing.html for guidance in your healing.
Meditate deeply with Guru Ram Das and Baba Siri Chand asking them to allow you to understand the root
cause of your situation, and all of its ramifications so that you can fully deal with it.
· Or you may simply proceed with
the healing without consciously knowing the particulars.
· Use any of our wonderful
Kundalini kriyas or meditations to energetically move through your healing. Some are at www.SoulAnswer.com/kriyas.hmtl
meditatively forgive each person involved with the situation—including yourself for believing or participating in any
way, even as the victim. No blame or judgment. Realize that the Universe will take care
of justice—unless of course you need to put that person in jail for the good of all. So, the result
of this forgiving is primarily for you to dissolve the energetic cords that lock that difficulty to you.
· Use your breath to RECLAIM Who
you really are—that is your Light, your strength, your beauty, your sense of knowing and your power! Make
the intention that all this wonder continue to grow within you. Experience it!
· Be grateful for your progress.
Live an attitude of gratitude.
Lots of Love,
Kaur Khalsa, www.SoulAnswer.com , 2012.
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Last Words to Us: “Live FOR Each Other!”
June 28, 2016 & May 22, 2012
great master, presenter of this divine Dharma, and giver of our immaculate system of Kundalini Yoga gave us a lifestyle of
courage, kindness and grit. He led us to draw our spirits from the heavens and plant our feet solidly on
the Earth. He told us the Truth! He told us that we are the Earth-Living God and that
it is our path of personal discovery to come to full Realization of that. He gave us every tool imaginable—uncountable
mantras, meditations, kriyas, the banis (powerful prayers), and more. And he gave us earthly direction,
too—brush your teeth with alum and sea salt, how to sit on the toilet, cold shower, and on and on.
He inspired, challenged and badgered us to live our grit in the face of all odds, even the most unimaginable.
One glance from him and you knew you were deeply held in the purest love and acceptance to your core—right were
you were in the moment—no good, no bad, as well as Infinite recognition of all lifetimes back, and every action forward.
We knew that we were held in unrelenting grace and strength.
so miraculously modeled his unflinching Truth for us in his own life. Do you remember those incredibly
ugly court cases against him, with outrageous personal attacks for the purpose of destroying all that he had built for us?
He simply kept up such massive fortitude. And his complete forgiveness, especially for one of those
perpetrators was the mind-boggling act of a true saint. We just couldn’t figure out how to follow
him to that enormity of forgiveness. He never kicked anyone out, whatever they did. He
let them find their own way—either change or leave, but always held steadfast in his constant love for them and for
For my part, I have never, ever seen or felt such power of the Saint anywhere
else. I can only pray that I learn this Path from his astonishing example bit by bit.
So, when his very last words of his very last guiding lecture that he bestowed on us were “Live FOR Each Other,”
I can only take that as an encapsulation of his most profound direction for each of us within the framework of this
Dharma, and this Healthy, Happy, and Holy life that he laid out.
my heart to see people using anger and judgment to jump out of the neutrality, the “Patience Pays,” the trust
and deep abiding experience of Guru that he tirelessly taught us over and over again. In my broken heart,
I am also realizing my own hidden limits that are still corralling my own psyche. What an opportunity to
search out and melt my own unconscious walls of separation. What a perfect time to let go of others’
opinions of me—whether up or down. To live to those opinions, I would have to chain myself to others’
rigid mold, rather than live by the pure freedom of Truth given by my sweet Soul or Yogi Bhajan (Tratakam). As
I free up my psyche and get to my heart, I better understand what he meant by “Live FOR Each Other” as I fully
accept each one’s own way of coming through these difficult times.
when he said, “Live FOR Each Other,” we might have thought that he was talking only about those who live the strict
“rehat” or rules of the Dharma. But when I look back on the way that he taught, I know truly
in my heart that he was talking about the “900 million we shall be.” He was not leaving anyone--that
is NOT LEAVING ANYONE out of his profound vision for us. He never threw anyone overboard or slandered them,
although he often bore the brunt of malicious slander himself. He always trusted that every one of us was
on the path to pure Union with the Infinite, no matter where we are at the moment. I pray that we can inherit
his Infinite generosity of Spirit and recognition of Truth.
Do you remember,
he always said “Forgive, but don’t forget”? The first part is to forgive.
Forgive our own anger, our own debilitating sense of loss, betrayal, and being wronged. We certainly
cannot build the future that he has mapped out for us unless we start by forgiving the root of those attitudes.
They grow from our own separateness and hurt that go back lifetimes, but which may have come to a head in the last
few years in any number of guises. He taught us that spiritual ego—believing that “I”
have all the answers, rather than listening to and bowing to Guru’s or Soul’s profound evolution for us-- is the
very biggest trap on this amazing Path.
So, in that Light,
how can we judge, how can we blame, how can we justifiably vent our anger on others if we are actually “Living FOR Each
We start by working on ourselves, trusting
that the healing energy generated by our own humble and most honest transformation will have the greatest healing effect on
all of us. Rely on the process, even though we don’t quite know where Guru is taking us. I recently
heard Yogi Bhajan on a video say to do what your Soul tells you, whether you trust it or not! What courage
it takes to move beyond the security of what we know and expect—to the Unknown, eh?
The second part, “but don’t forget” simply means to never be unconscious enough to let the same
mess happen again. It doesn’t mean to hold a grudge or project darkness of any sort towards another
person or situation. That would be a complete contradiction of “Forgive,” and on the energetic
level, continuing to blame exponentially retards all of our forward progress.
“But don’t forget” means becoming personally responsible for our collective welfare.
It means that we are all here deciding how to hold hands on our way HOME, no matter what kind of challenges our Souls,
in their Infinite wisdom have currently opted for.
FOR Each Other” means wholeheartedly joining together to LOVE one another, genuinely, from our heart, with no holds
barred. That is not Hallmark-card love, or “let me look like I am loving,” but rather going
through the very real birth pangs to open our hearts so hugely that we join in true humility, respect, and kindness with one
another. It means taking the responsibility to heal our own pain so that we can truly, selflessly serve
one another. It means listening deeply to the whole depth of one another, without getting stuck in our
own viewpoint. After all, this Path demands our constant expansion at all costs. Why
bypass any opportunity to do so?
How can we hold steady, stay purely grounded,
fully in the neutrality of Shunia that allows the will of Guru or Soul to take charge through us? Isn’t
that what our most extraordinary, once-in-an-Age Master has led us to?
question remains. How do we “Live FOR Each Other”—both individually and collectively—for
those who profess this lifestyle, as well as those who don’t, and all in between? And
how do we now truly build an Aquarian Consciousness in every aspect of our lives as we are joined together by karma, heart
and commitment to the Master’s teachings that lead us to Union with our own Souls, our God Selves. How
do we actually “Live FOR Each Other” without limits, only with strength of heart?
Lots of Love,
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