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Got the Grumpies? April  17, 2012 You know what I’m saying....  “They are so mean to me.”  “I don’t have enough money.” “Why can’t things ever go right for me?” “That person is so weird or out of touch.” “I’m so scared of being left out.” “I’m so lonely/downcast/disconnected/overwhelmed/angry/etc.” The biggest problem is that we take these repeating mind-nasties as absolute Truth!  We actually believe all of that hurtful, self-defeating, isolating stuff that goes on ad infinitum in our own brain.  We habitually beat ourselves up and others along with us.  And we actually talk ourselves into believing that if we keep quiet about it all, then no one is hurt.  Or we might give way to some really juicy gossip to vent our downward mental slide, or explode our really confused mental tangle on someone else.  And we actually believe that is all justified and natural.  OMG! Well, maybe it is normal, but who wants to be “normal” if it means continually jabbing yourself and your world with self-imposed hatred and discontent? My Dear, did you know that you actually have the most amazing super-power of transforming your perpetual or even intermittent grumpies?  I don’t care if you are convinced that you are being personally victimized by the Universe Itself every time you turn around.  You have within you the God-given ability to actually change the prism of your own mental process so that you can finally participate in the actual Truth of your life, where contentment, ease and satisfaction abide, while fear and all the rest of the grumpies evaporate!  Yes, we often tell such lies of hurt, shame and difficulty to ourselves that we completely obfuscate the Truth of what is right in front of us. Now this changing of our old thinking patterns is definitely not lying to ourselves or going “Polly Anna” (oblivious to the real dangers that lurk in reality).  No way!  This is getting right down to the very nitty gritty Reality of Who we are, and what we are about.  So, if you are earnest in your desire to live in content and ease, then please…   DO THE GRUMY DUMP! NUMBER 1:  Watch your mind at every minute, just as you would in watching a 2 year old to keep it safe.  Encourage it to be happy and to explore.  But if it slips into the very real self-danger of grumpizing against yourself or others, immediately stop, inhale and do heart breath, and go to neutral with the profound understanding that this crumminess is not the real story.  NUMBER 2: Now you may even have to wrench yourself out of the very deep belief that this nastiness is REAL and must be continually supported in your vulnerable mind or else you are not being responsible, or realistic, or whatever.  For this, dive deep into your favorite mantra.  As you know, “Gobinday, Mukunday…” at www.SoulAnswer.com/gobinde.html is my very favorite for breaking off this monkey business. NUMBER 3: Now there certainly are things that you DO have to pay attention to, but if you are locked into fear, dread, outrage and so on, your outcome can only match your projections.  So, best start your response at neutral so that you can DISCERN from Soul www.SoulAnswer.com/soul.html :  A. What is the real problem is B. How to best deal with it For instance, the real problem with judging and complaining about other people may be self-projection.  That is, your subconscious is constantly judging you, but that gets turned around and then presented to your conscious mind as judgment against others, which is a neat trick to keep you “safe” from judgment by your own mind.  Ingenious, eh? Then to best deal with the difficulty, your Soul may very well surprise you by saying something like “Forgive the guy who spat in your face, forgive yourself for being angry, and send the poor dilapidated bloke healing heart breath.”  Now that could be a tall order.  But if you are really serious about living in ease and contentment, you’ve got to take the giant steps that will get you there. Now, here are some more amazing supports that will be sure to keep the grumpies away:    Daily sadhana (spiritual practice) where you get to work out your difficulties with Soul Itself, let go the automatic programs that keep you chained to downward spirals, and build your self-confidence and self-control with the extraordinary aura-building materials of naad—that is sacred sounds that change your energy patterns, increase your access to Self/Soul, and strengthen your neutrality.   Upgrade your diet.  As you know, eating sugar, processed food, caffeine, high carbs, alcohol, chemicals and an unbalanced array of nutrients can cut you off at the knees, making you susceptible to every pitfall.  You know how to remedy that, and if not, help is available.  And as every dieter knows, low blood sugar can turn you into a red-faced monster in a moment.  So carry something like nuts, seeds, fruit or tofu around with you as a light but powerful and safe energy booster when you need it.   Stay with Mother—Nature, that is.  Getting outside to blend with Her exquisite energy magically relaxes your own knots and tangles.  Talk out your challenges with her and actually listen for her response!  Exercise of all kinds eases out the very real psychic energy that tightens your body.  Do your yoga—both the stretching and the building kriyas, plus walking and any other sweaty physical endeavors are superbly designed for the health of our human bodies and minds. You have my every wish and prayer to continually move into a grump-free life—full of wisdom, contentment, ease and surprisingly wonderful solutions.  This pursuit is surely the adventure of lifetimes! Lots of Love, Siri-Gian Kaur www.SoulAnswer.com   Copyright:  Siri-Gian Khalsa, www.SoulAnswer.com , 2012 You have permission to reproduce this article online or in print as long as you keep this copyright information with it as large and readable.

Don’t Get Bitten by the Jaws of Your Polarities! October 25, 2011   Your Polarities will eat you up quicker than any wild animal with long, ferocious teeth.  They will consume you on the spot, with no remorse.  The fear, doubt, trauma and so much more can relentlessly rule your life without a bit of respite or remorse. So, since they stay hidden in plain sight, let’s stalk them for a while to get the true measure of them.  These are what we might call our automatic programs that only need the slightest trigger to rear up to their full power within your own consciousness—superimposing all the tightness and many other emotions, as well as their own unique ways of seeing the world.  They capture and consume us!  They involve the very real tug of war between what we might call NEGATIVE and POSITIVE aspects of the same thing.  For instance, here are a few examples: I AM NOTHING—I AM EVERYTHING NEGATIVE: There is this little voice that seems to tell me that I am not worthy; that I am a failure; that I am guilty; that I can’t get anything right; nobody could care for me; I am alone and never will be enough.  This leads to depression, self-inflicted hurt and self-hatred, breakdowns, self-blame, etc. POSITIVE:  Look at me!  I need to be seen as a bright and shining star; I am being given respect for once, I will do anything to keep that; I need to keep up appearances; I work so hard to keep up my reputation; I am so scared to be seen as negative or less than perfect.  This leads to being frantic about how I am seen, controlling and manipulating to get what I want or being seen as important; success at all costs; hiding in my personal terrors; stealing; etc. UN LOVED—GET “LOVE” FROM WHEREVER NEGATIVE:  I feel destitute; so unconnected that there is no hope for me on Earth; lost; abysmally unsupported and alone; primal scream; no one to turn to; no comfort; hate being in this body and mind (opposite of self-love).  Can lead to screaming depression, self-punishment, unable to love or really connect with others, numb, etc. POSITIVE:  I am everyone’s friend and lover; I will do anything to get one drop of love—no matter what I have to do to get it; I can be dishonest and disloyal to get it, or I can be obsessively honest and loyal to get it; because I never feel fulfilled, I struggle over and over, more and more to feel fulfilled by others; no matter how hard I try, no one’s love is enough to really make me whole; I give love to the point of exhaustion.  Can lead to hysteria, much anger, loss of power, scheming, grasping, blaming, etc. VICTIM—VICTIMIZER NEGATIVE:  I have been kicked, beaten, degraded, abused, and raped to a pulp.  I have no self-respect or even hope to have any; I don’t have any real self-image; others seem to constantly take advantage of me and continue beating me up.  Can lead to loss of seeing reality; constant hurt and degradation; magnetizing abusers to me, habit of hurting myself. POSITIVE:  I am in charge now!  I mete out punishment to whomever I see needs it; I take what I believe belongs to me—stuff, business and personal advantage, including sexual advantage; my self-respect at the cost of yours; I can inflict my pain on you because you deserve it.  Can lead to bullying, smashing others, false sense of my importance, flagrant and secret abuse of others, pernicious loss of self-worth, etc. So, you get the idea.  These are only a few.  There are so many more!  We, in the course of our lifetimes are so very creative in coming up with these polarities, these push/pulls that take charge of our lives and create so much havoc.  Can you identify any in your life?  I find it is such a surprise to discover them! One clue is that if some idea, some emotion is tying you up and giving you lots of problems, I will bet you that you have some wild polarities on your hands.  Don’t fret and try to flee.  That will never work.  As much as you try to deny them or run away, they will gain in power over you, to be sure. Instead, go right to your altar—either your physical altar or the altar or seat of Consciousness in your own mind and being.  Tune in and then with your breath—long and deep breath, pranayams, heart breath, allow yourself to get to that sweet place of neutral that we call meditation.  Then ask that you be shown your polarities bit by bit.  As you see one side, take a genuine look at the other side—positive/negative, back and forth. As you unravel your polarities, please don’t dare to get into guilt, self blame and all that stuff.  That’s just a sneaky trick that seals you into those Polarities.  Instead, get into the wonder of it all!  Find out how amazingly perfectly the positive is tied to the negative and vice versa.  Become aware of all those tightly-held, subconscious patterns and belief systems that you can.  Let any pain or anger move through you so that it can get unlocked from your innards and be transformed.  Just neutrally sit with it, using your breath and mantra. In this way, you will find such an extraordinary story of your very own life unfold!  Become neutral as though you are watching a movie.  Forgive yourself, forgive others to dissolve those bungie cords that have bound you to those scenarios.  And be sure to do pertinent Kundalini mediations and kriyas.  They are the finest tools that you have for untying those great tangles of your polarities that have tied you up over lifetimes.  And fall into the loving arms of your favorite gurus, teachers, saints, angels and your very own God Self—your Soul for very real help with your discovery and transformation. And then respect your experience.  Understand that as you unravel what was held in those polarities, as you introduce them to one another so that they may finally relax into neutrality and love, you will find incredible wisdom flowing from your new awareness.  And, my Dear, the most remarkable thing is that you could never have gained such wisdom, depth of self-love and healing in any way other than healing from those ferocious polarities!  And, my Dear, this process is a very big part of what we call “The Path.”  Might as well get into it.  You could only become wiser and happier. Lots of Love, Siri-Gian Kaur   Copyright, Siri-Gian Khalsa, www.SoulAnswer.com/choose.html , 2011  You may reproduce this article either online or in print as long as you keep this copyright and link to this page large and readable.

Aug. 16, 2011 What are the two hardest things to do in your life? They are: ·         Recognize when your mind is destroying you and your environments, and do it in that very moment, “mid-coitus”! ·         Consciously turn your mind around in that very moment. How successful are you at keeping your “thought radar” on automatic so you can catch those thoughts and emotions that render us helpless in the face of such things as “our justifiable anger,” “self-deprecation in all its disguises,”  “our quicksand of certifiable loss,” “overwhelming but picayune judgment of ourselves and others,” and so much more!  Yogi Bhajan called those unruly mind viruses “Trances”. They not only throw a huge smoke screen around what is really happening, and jerk us into their own non-reality, but by their very creative energy they magnetize more of the same to materialize in our present and future.  Yikes!  Let me outta here! This is what Patanjali, that ancient codifier of Yoga described to us so many centuries ago.  According to the “Aquarian Teacher, KRI Level 1 Textbook,” p. 45, “It is the habits of the mind that bind us to attachments and duality and, in turn, suffering.” But there is a remedy!  “It is also the habit of mind that leads to non-attachment and to the practice of merger with what is real.  The mind is a sophisticated tool that can give us liberation and the transcendence of conditional living, or it can give us confusion, ignorance, and bondage.” Guess what that means?  Once your mind becomes aware of that automatic “thief in the night” that is stealing control over your consciousness, you can actually CHOOSE to reel your own mind and emotions back in from its churning habitual crap that pollutes your whole system—body, mind, emotions and energy flow. YES!  You CAN CHOOSE, and you can be effective!  This, my Dear is the only way that you can finally find happiness and peace.  This is the path of Yoga or Union.  If you don’t choose, you are consistently setting yourself up as the victim/victimizer target in your own personal shooting gallery, especially if you believe that you have no responsibility in the matter—“It is someone else’s fault”.  (See www.SoulAnswer.com/heap_of_healing.html   “Don’t be Doomed by Your Own Backstory!”)  You are in charge of your own psyche! So, now how do you choose to move out of the dark anger, hurt, numbness, etc.?  First of all, let me put in a plug for strong daily sadhana.  That clears layers of mind-gunk and gives you better ability to move through this process.  Then at the moment: 1.       Catch your thought or emotion to realize this is actually self-sabotage, not true reality.  This step is really, really important because it sets the whole process in motion. 2.       Go to neutral.  Long-deep breath, Heart Breath www.SoulAnswer.com/heart_breath.html , changing your mind to welcome the bigger picture that had been obscured, calling on our saints and Gurus, etc. for help.  This is not avoidance, going numb or jumping out of your body.  Quite the contrary.  You are taking back the engine of your consciousness to actually deal with the energy and experience of the Trance at hand.  3.       Move into healing and change.  This is where your genius of awareness and spectacular free will come into play.  They come through your strength of determination—your true CHOICE!  Don’t take “NO” for an answer, but definitely don’t beat yourself up for getting yourself in this difficult condition.  That would really be counter-productive, don’t you think? a.       Ground yourself by sending your energy down into the center of Mother Earth/Adi Shakti and continue to cycle it back up again through your body and mind to root you, to clear you, and switch from the chaos of mind and emotions to weighted strength. b.      Grounded in this state of neutral awareness and yogic breath, let the emotions, feelings, mind’s tantrums run through your being without being overtaken by them.   Adding mantra, banis (powerful prayers), Kundalini yoga kriyas will quickly move this process along.  Remember, you will re-experience your Trance as it moves out, but don’t get freaked.  Just abide with the process until you know that this “sitting” is done.  You may find previously unseen realizations and the ability to reframe your situation arise like misty fairies in your reality. c.       Different manifestations or degrees of that same Trance may continue to come up over time, but use the same process over and over again.  You will be addressing different layers each time, so respect the process, don’t get impatient with it.  This is your Transformation to Peace—your true path of Yoga!  Remember Yogi Bhajan and Patanjali. 4.       Expansion—Now, begin to let the wisdom that comes from your healing trickle into your consciousness.  When you “listen” you may be amazed at what incredible messages,  yearnings and remedies were snarled in that Trance, but now are freely accessible.  Forgive yourself for not having recognized them before, and allow yourself the great freedom to accept and integrate these “new” abilities and freedoms into your personal world.  Be grateful for this incredible process.  And reside in True Love which is radiant Light, Pure Truth.  This is how your mind CHOOSES the process of peace to work for you.  It takes creating a “mind muscle” with repetitive use.  So, now your mind can choose to move your system’s energetic vibration to actually magnetize even more peace.  Whoopie!  Way to go, Friend! Make CONSCIOUS CHOICE your regular and most dear habit.  Happiness will pursue you! Copyright:  Siri-Gian Khalsa, www.SoulAnswer.com , 2011 You have permission to republish this article in print and online as long as you keep this copyright large and readable.